Hello you lovely people,
My word had some much going on lately haven’t had the chance to come on for a chat about what’s been going on in my crazy little world. Plus the couple of times that I did come on to write the site was down which was rather unusual as it’s normally reliable. Been up since 4:45am, one of my lovely cats decided to sit outside my bedroom door meowing because he was hungry, little sod! Did try to go back to sleep but once I am normally awake then unless I am really tired then that’s me. Still the sun has just started to come up now and looks like we might even be getting a decent day ahead.
Since the last time I wrote the one I care for spent a night in hospital due to his seizures as he normally has them in clusters. On the Thursday we had his court hearing as the council want to move him out of his flat which was a VERY long day. I was there as his carer and we sat through all the evidence from the council in the morning. The truth be known the council seemed to be telling a whole bunch of porkie’s, there stories were all very patchy or they will give I don’t know, I don’t remember answers. It was very hard and he wasn’t feeling that good and at one point I had to warn them that he may have a seizure and we had to take breaks. At lunch I got him something warm to eat and we sat in the car and warmed him up as the room had been very cold. The afternoon seemed a bit better although this time it was our turn to give evidence. Now bearing in mind he was quite wobbly in the morning and looked like he was going to have a seizure, cross-examination was not the best time for him. I was fuming as the barrister from the other side basically manipulated him into saying he saw a document which was the initial notice which never arrived. The reason why he recognised the document was because I had shown it to him previously and it was being shown in the morning due their witness evidence. I couldn’t believe how clever she was trying to be and I wasn’t allowed to say a word to explain to him what was actually happening. The next thing she did was imply that as he saw the document that this was why he had a bad turn because he saw the document. I knew what she was doing but I couldn’t intervene which I found really hard. Still the next morning I found an old e-mail which proved that what she implied happened was not correct as the time frame was wrong and I sent this to his solicitor for the barristers submission. So I was already annoyed by the sneakiness of the barrister so when it was my turn for cross-examination I was ready with gloves on. I answered all my questions as honest as possible and whenever she tried to imply something negative towards me I came back with an answer she wasn’t expecting. At one point she asked about my mental health issues and the judge stepped in to ask if she was questioning my ability which I thought was good. Still only one issue came up about how many stairs I have at my place as he stays with me quite often and at the end of the day, it ‘s my home not his. Oh and the fact he uses a bath round my place which again it’s my place not his and I don’t need to watch him so often when he has a walk in shower at his place. So all in all, it was a very long day and we didn’t have enough time for the judge to make her decision. The next part of the case will be held this Friday which is planned for a few hours and then we shall find out what the judge has decided. Hopefully she will see that the council were not being truthful and there were more things in his favour rather than against. To be honest it’s taking its toll on him also as he has been hitting self destruct a bit so a good outcome would be better for him.
The weekend it was the Queen’s Diamond Jubilee and on the Saturday I got up early and went out and about. I couldn’t get hold of him for most of the day so I presumed he had gone home and fallen asleep. Finally in the evening I got a call from him saying he was in hospital so then I knew that he had, had another seizure. On the phone he told me the hospital had lost all his stuff so could I bring some clothes and things to the hospital for him. The stuff included the bag I got for him which has all his important items in so I immediately called the bank to cancel his band card. I grabbed some things for him and got to the hospital as quick as I could to find out what happened. On the way I called security on my bluetooth to see if they had found or been given anything but they said that they hadn’t. Basically when they put him on a trolley they took his clothes off, coat and trainers and proceeded by putting it all on the trolley with his little bag he carries. Somewhere along the way his stuff had either been picked up or he had moved onto another trolley without his belongings. I was fuming “again” as all he had been left with was his socks, boxers, track suit bottoms and a hospital gown, nothing else! No money, no keys, no phone number to call me as they were in his wallet, luckily he remembered my house number or he would have been in more trouble until I found him. I had to go around the departments asking what had happened and try to get some help which wasn’t much. I did this on the Saturday and Sunday and I was stressed out as he had keys to my place also and had written my address down also. So that weekend was a total nightmare and as it was a double bank holiday they couldn’t check their safe until the Wednesday, or so they say. On the Wednesday I got in touch with the hospital and they said that nothing had been found so I then had to write-up a letter of complaint and describe what had been lost. I also had to write the value of the items and the possibility of getting locks changed as well. I had to phone the police due to the fact the items could have been stolen and the fact that they were lost in a place of care. One of the sisters had tried to claim he was responsible so I had to point out that he was post seizure so the hospital in fact were responsible, the list goes on. Still in the evening I watched the Queen’s Jubilee concert which I enjoyed very much and I got the chance to relax.
Last Tuesday, ten days later I went on a course for a day which I will talk about later, which was a very long day and I got a call on the way home. It was only the CT department and she had found a note that I put into his wallet. The note says if the person is taken to hospital with seizures then to call these numbers, the first being mine. I was like “you haven’t gone and found all his stuff have you?”. The lady replied by telling me that she had found his things and the note had enabled her to call me. Ten days later his stuff had been found on a trolley!! The trolley had been going around the hospital without anyone noticing it was on there or anyone checking it was there after we asked many departments where his thing were. I kept saying to staff it must be there somewhere as the whole lot disappeared together rather than just one thing. So the good news was, he got all his belongings back without a thing missing and the relief that they keys were safe was good news too! I went and picked it all up but I told them the complaint still needed to stand due to all that had happened from start to finish.
Any good news for me… Nope, ha ha, the friend that was messaging me a lot has been a bit of a nightmare. I couldn’t get my head around all of it and in the past week he has done nothing but let me down. I have been strong this time and told him that I was annoyed and when I missed his call yesterday I didn’t return it as he would expect. I was busy anyway, spent the day with an old mate, mixing some tunes and cooking a roast. Still that’s another story for another time as I am sure you will be exhausted after reading a snippet of the last couple of weeks, he he…